When I was a young girl I asked my childhood best friend to be in my wedding, but over the many years since elementary school we grew apart and only talk from time to time. Now that I am getting married, I want a wedding party filled with all of the closest people in our lives, not one’s we only see maybe once a year. The problem is when I announced my engagement she assumed she is still in the wedding! How should I handle asking a childhood friend NOT to be in my bridal party? ~Callie(Avon)
Hi Callie! Thanks for writing and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
As young girls, most of us dream about how we foresee our wedding day; in a beautiful church, a giant five-tiered cake and a gorgeous white gown with a long train. So usually when we first think of our wedding party, we plan to include our childhood friends. However, by the time your grade school years pass, we often have lost continuous touch with those friends. Most of the time we assume that promises made as children, don’t necessarily apply as adults. But, if your childhood friend still feels like she should be in the wedding party and you are not in favor of that happening, my advice is honesty is the best policy. You really have two options when you are faced with this scenario, either you can put your friend in a less crucial wedding role or you can ask them to only attend as a guest. Invite your childhood friend out to a girl’s lunch or shopping trip where you can have some time to discuss everything in more relaxed surroundings. Explain how you and your fiancé feel about your members of your wedding party. Make sure you take the time to explain that you are not throwing her out of the wedding party, just focusing on family and friends who you are closer with at this time in your life and you would rather have her step into another role or attend as a guest, whichever you and your fiancé have decided. Just remember to keep her feelings in mind because you don’t want to lose an old friend in the process. Good luck with your decision, Callie!
Warm Wedding Wishes,
Sara & Lisa
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